Action Does Not Create

This post is in response to a client's question about budgeting. Here are some excerpts from her question:

"…by budgeting and watching every penny and saving for a rainy day, that would be considered tapping into a limited conscious belief system; right? …I might have been able to step into my passion by now if I had been more frugal, more uptight, less carefree but I don't know that for sure and life would have been a lot less fun and enjoyable. I am a free spirit, and I want to live like one, but I also don't want to eat cat food… well, you know."

In this third dimension, we use money as an exchange of energy. All energy is consciousness so the key is to not look at money as an inanimate object but as consciousness you want to have a positive relationship with. Money has become the symbol of who we are, and not having it, threatens our survival and/or wellbeing.  We look for ways to get it, do jobs we don’t like, stay in unhealthy relationships, etc. because we have been programmed to depend on money, and not our own creator selves, to experience this dimension. We have become “stalkers” of money.

All the responsibility we have put on money to deliver what we want has created so much fear around money energy, because we have a distorted relationship with who we really are and how the universe actually works. The universe knows what is needed in this dimension to support humanity. When we put our attention on what we choose to experience and use every activity as the “bridge” to have more of that, we move into our hearts. Anything that we need to support that experience, including money, will be delivered effortlessly.

Everything in this dimension is in relationship to everything else. You could never live your passion by taking action to create or retain more money, such as being frugal, because you are vibrating limitation in the act of being frugal. The frequency of passion is not congruent with the frequency of limitation.

We need to stand back and look at the mind control. Having a budget is not the problem, letting the budget control your experience is the problem. You can budget with the intention that your account will continue to grow every day, regardless of how you spend. But if spending brings on guilt or fear, rather than truly vibrating freedom, then it won’t work. It is about how you feel which = your vibration that is the message you send to the universal unlimited potential. Unlimited potential and possibility simply responds to what you vibrate and it is the hidden beliefs that dominate – regardless of what you choose consciously.

Action does not create anything. Period. It is the intention behind the action that allows everything we want, anytime we want it, but the subconscious intention must be in alignment with conscious intention, as you only receive what your belief system says you can have. Therefore, as an example, you cannot live as a free spirit, when you don’t feel freedom in your job. Until we understand, at a conscious level, when we are on the mental plane rather than heart soul centered awareness, we remain in the 3D prison.

Until next time,

Sharon.

Law of Attraction

Thanks to a listener on the Group Coaching call for emailing this suggestion:

"I would appreciate hearing your opinion of The Law of Attractions. I have appreciated and practiced the teachings of Abraham Hicks and I believe it has been helpful in my life but I've not yet experienced the financial abundance I desire."

This is a great topic as it has been a point of confusion for many of us over the last 20 - 30 years.

Research shows that less than 3% of people who practice the Law Of Attraction traditional teachings have any meaningful results. One of the main reasons is that the techniques that are taught keep people on the mental plane, depending on the 5 senses to connect with what they want. The information contained in most books on the Law of Attraction does not make clear what the steps are to manifest or attract, nor does it cover what "alignment" really means.

In 3D we carry around a lot of stuff that was never true, and had little to do with us, if anything at all. It was handed down as others' beliefs or we experienced their negativity and took it on as "there is something wrong with me". Most of this programming is held in the subconscious and we are not aware of how it is playing out - but we experience lack or turmoil somewhere in our life. We keep looking into our past and hoping it doesn’t happen again in our future.

Manifesting what we want in this reality works, however the universe does not  respond to asking from your words, it only responds to vibration in your combined emotional, mental and physical states. It will continue to give you what you are vibrationally asking for which usually contradicts what you want. So the question is what am I vibrationally asking for that I am not aware of at a deeper level? Because, on a conscious level, I know what I want and it isn't here.

One of the first things to look at is how much of your life is structured around good, bad, right, wrong, should and shouldn’t? This polarization and contrast of the 3rd dimension keeps our vibration in a density below the frequency of creation. It is 5D frequency where what you want already exists. That is what Abraham refers to in the 3 step process: 1. Ask, 2. It is created (not your job) and 3. Allow.

The first two steps are easy but the allowing part is where alignment comes in. We are taught to connect emotionally with the thing we want to experience but that alone does not allow our desire to manifest in our physical reality. Our intention has already created our desire. The allowing of it, to manifest physically, is about aligning our mental, emotional and physical bodies with the vibration of creation. When we give our attention to that which connects us to the frequency of love, appreciation and gratitude, we are allowing. It is not necessary to continually focus on our desires as staying in aligned vibration automatically draws to us that which we created with our intention. This is where awareness plays a big role.

When all levels of consciousness are in alignment in the 3rd dimension, you become the creator in present time, and life emanates from you, within you, through you.  All creation must come THROUGH you, not TO you. When you can hold your vibration in wellbeing, appreciation, or simply being quiet and connecting with yourself, you resonate with the unified field and can stay at that level. You must do this consciously. It is very important that you experience these vibrational frequencies in your physical body as well.

Then at a quantum level you are now expanded into the unified field where you can hold your intention in different dimensions, realms and frequencies. If you focus on the frequency of abundance, through your intention, you can bring that vibrational attention point within the unified field through your body and into this dimension.

There is much more that can be discussed about this topic and I look forward to your sharing your wisdom through your comments, questions, and observations.

Until next time,
Sharon

Money and Our "Wants" vs "Needs"

Thanks to Elin for the following comment on the previous post about our relationship with money.

"My beliefs about $ have always been centred around $ being a tool to be used in a responsible way to sustain the family and help others and, in this way, it continues to flow and the need is met. Now about 'want' is not as clear as it feels selfish and self serving. Can you elaborate on 'want' as opposed to 'need' Sharon? Thank you so much for your inspired blog!"

The first thing to notice is that you mention your “beliefs” around how money should be used. When the origin of beliefs are explored we find most of them are based on false premises and are simply someone else’s opinion. So when we use these programmed beliefs to drive our decisions we are always using other people’s opinions as to how we should live. This causes us to stay in the mental plane around money rather than connecting with the energy of money through our heart.

When we have a belief that we should be responsible with money, which is also tied to you using money to help others, there is usually an element of guilt that comes with spending money on things your heart desires for yourself. Making decisions around money from the belief systems held in the mental state, as opposed to the heart which calls for using money as a means of exchange to experience the things that bring us joy and fun, limits the flow of money into our lives because we hold ourselves back from fully expressing our desires.

We have been programmed to believe that money is separate from us and that we have to work for, or in some way earn, our right to have money. Only if we have worked hard enough can we allow ourselves to use any of it for our enjoyment. That is what the concept of retirement is about.

This leads to the question of “want” as opposed to “need”. Once again it depends on your connection with the energy of money. If you come from the programmed mental belief state about money, you will only allow that which you perceive you need. Then wanting something for the sheer enjoyment of it creates guilt because we also believe that if someone else is miserable (doesn’t have money) we are also not allowed to be happy.

When you call something forward into your life, by using money as an exchange, the words you use are not relevant. It is the vibration attached to the words that determines how the universe responds. One person’s need can be another’s want, and somebody else’s want can be another’s need. It all depends on what meaning you put onto your situation. Remember the language of the universe is vibration and it is how you feel that determines the outcome.

If you can drop all belief systems, which are mainly based on others' opinions or outright lies, and only focus on what makes your heart sing, then you will be a virtual magnet for more money to flow into your experience. From that perspective, you will then see many more opportunities to support others when it feels right, rather than doing so from a sense of responsibility to do it.

Your relationship with the energy of money should feel light, joyful, expectant and fulfilling so that the same resonance flows to you as abundance in every part of your life.

What Is Your Relationship With Money?

We’ve talked here about relationships with friends, family, co-workers, and even with your Self. But have you ever considered what your relationship is with money? Science has taught us for years that everything, in the seen and unseen, is energy. And quantum physics has taken that concept further and has proven that we are all “entangled” with all the energy that is, and that energy of similar vibratory frequency is attracted to itself. We also know that all energy has consciousness, so it follows that money is energy and money has consciousness. As consciousness, therefore, the vibration of money is a living thing, not just some ink on paper or a number in your bank account.

So consider, for a moment, how your consciousness relates to the consciousness of money. What is your attitude toward money? How do you treat money as the consciousness that it clearly is? Is your vibration toward money such that you will attract it to you or repel it from you?

To help you assess your relationship with money, think of it as a lover. The kind of lover that you are always so excited to see, to spend time with, to share your experiences with. A lover that you are so drawn to that you want to share them with everyone you know. Someone that, when you’re with them, you are joyful and excited about the things you are going to do together.

Now imagine your lover showing up at your door. What if you were to greet them like this?  "Well it's about time! I’ve been sitting here waiting for you forever! I thought you would bring more with you when you came. I never get enough of you to feel comfortable, satisfied or safe. Oh well, come on in, I have some bills to pay."

Then, after your lover has paid your mortgage or rent and your phone, cable, power bills and anything else that you have to pay, what if you said "Is that all that’s left?! How am I going to buy groceries, and gas for the car? The kids need this and that! What if something unexpected comes up? I'm putting you in the closet (my bank account) and I don’t want you to come out unless it is absolutely necessary!"

And so, you lock up your lover in the closet, begrudging every time you have to crack the door open and let them out, a little bit here, a little bit there. They want so badly to treat you to something special, an afternoon latte, a dinner out, a massage, but each time you deny them their wish because they are simply not enough.

If you were to treat a lover in that manner, how excited do you think they would be to hang out with you? To show up unexpectedly? To shower you with not only the necessities of life but to gift you with what you consider the luxuries? They are more likely to say "You know what? No matter how much I come around, it's never enough for you. You don’t appreciate who I am or anything I do for you. You've made me responsible for your happiness. You've made me responsible for your self image. You’ve made me responsible for your very well being. You are way too needy for me, so… Sayonara!"

You may consider this an extreme or bizarre scenario, but from an energetic perspective, that is what you are doing when you are financially "needy", and look to money to satisfy any aspect of who you are.  

Science has shown that the Universe is always inclusive and ever abundant. But you need to tune your vibrational frequency in to the frequency of the "radio station" playing the music of money you want to experience. So take notice of how you feel about money, your beliefs about money and ask yourself who does this belief belong to? Who programmed me with this belief? You may find that by contemplating money as an experience rather than something outside of yourself, it may just come knocking on your door from unexpected places.

Until next time,

Sharon.

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What Is Waking Up?

Thanks to Gaynor for her comment and question regarding the previous blog post. She asks:

"… Is waking up that difficult, or have we been asleep so long we just keep dozing off every once in awhile? You know when you sleep-in you sometimes feel so groggy all day."

First of all, there is the larger aspect of you that is already awake. The part of us that has been “asleep” is our conscious mind. We have been lulled into thinking we live in a democracy, that we have to work hard to get ahead, that we must comply with all the rules and laws of society or there will be chaos, and the only guarantees in life are death and taxes. These are all beliefs that have been programmed into our lower conscious minds.

All authentic creative action, which is aligned with the universal flow, comes first through higher mind. Higher mind is vastly different to the lower, rationalizing mind. It doesn’t function according to logic and it doesn’t tighten around the need for an answer, rather it happily contemplates the experience you are looking for.

What we need to wake up to is what life is showing us: the purpose of every moment of our life is to reveal an aspect of the truth about Ourselves to ourselves.  When we don’t understand that the external world is a mirror of what we are expressing inside, we resist what we are seeing and start using our conscious mind to create an alternative experience. We get invested in trying to change our external world, rather than acknowledging that we are the creator of it, and waking up to what that external world is showing us about us.

What if we were to reduce our resistance to our experiences and situations and, instead of trying to immediately change or get rid of the situation, we were to ask “what is this situation or experience revealing to me about me?” What if when you react strongly to something that is happening or to something that is said, you were to step back and observe yourself in the experience, and then ask "why did I react that way?" If you have a behavior that you don’t care for, ask yourself "why do I continue to act this way?" Then, with the clarity obtained from this "inner dialogue" we can reanalyze each situation and determine what, if anything, we choose to do about it. This is to respond rather than react.

In the true reality, we ARE each situation or experience, and when we have resistance to what is - we are resisting our own beingness. So we need to be less resistant and more accepting of what is. Many don't want to accept what is because they believe, in doing so, they are giving the Universe permission to send them more of the same. That is taking acceptance out of context. It does not mean that we should find any given situation to be "acceptable" if it doesn’t feel good. The true meaning behind accepting what is, is simply acknowledging that this situation is what it is, without judging it. Then, through the questions above, we can begin to understand the cause that we created which resulted in the effect we are seeing. When we understand that we are the creators of each experience, we are then in a position to change those experiences that are not serving us. Acceptance of what is, is the launching pad for change. As creators, what we create, we can change.

Knowing this and listening to your inner dialogue is a very important part of the awakening process because you will dissolve every non supportive belief and value that society has programmed you with.  If you practice this, the internal guidance you receive will astonish you. Taking the clarity of this new awareness and expressing it through your beingness and actions will begin to unleash an unstoppable flow of more positive experiences throughout every part of your life. This is the Power of Higher Mind which is connected to all existence.

When you give yourself to the higher mind level of consciousness all the time, in every moment – staying in the now – you will see the magic carpet ride unfold before you. You will then be awake to the power of Who You Are as a creator and the life you experience will be beyond your wildest dreams.

Until next time.

Blessings,
Sharon.

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Heart Centred Relationships

Thanks to the reader who requested a discussion on “Relationships – how to nurture everyone in your life.” This is an area that is important to all of us, so today we'll explore living from the heart as it relates to relationships.

We have relationships with our partners, family members, friends, acquaintances, co-workers, and so on. Our relationships can be our most challenging experiences as well as our most fulfilling. They are always our greatest opportunities for growth and the principles of a healthy relationship are always the same, regardless of who they are with.

What we ultimately want from a relationship is to feel safe, to be accepted for who we are, and supported in our beliefs.

However, most people who choose to be in a relationship are looking for love and believe that they must “give” love in order to get it. Doing that is as much as saying that you do not now have it. And that statement will, of course, be your reality. Love is not what you want, it is WHO YOU ARE. It is very important to not get the two confused.

If you think that love is "what you want", you will go searching for it all over the place. On the other hand, when you connect with the love in your heart you realize that love is "who you are". Then you simply share it all over the place, and you will experience loving relationships of all sorts where everyone feels nurtured.

When we think of healthy relationships, we often focus on what we can do for the other person to nurture them. That puts expectations on the relationship around "what to do" rather than "how to be".

Taking on the role of being the nurturer is different from being nurturing. Taking on the role of a nurturer usually results from our unconscious fixed beliefs of: I’m not good enough, not enough, not deserving, how I have done it wrong, I am unlovable, I’m going to say or do the wrong thing, it’s going to be my fault, rejection and failure.

These beliefs can show up in relationships in thoughts like “I have to prove that I am what they want” and “if I give enough love then I will be seen as having value and will be lovable”. In these circumstances, relationship dynamics revolve around what we "do" rather than simply being ourselves. We also have a perspective of what we subjectively think a relationship “should be” leading to “am I giving enough, or getting enough”? This limits our experience by taking our attention away from what already is present that is working or feeling right.

When we harbor expectations of ourselves around loving, supporting and nurturing someone, we take on the responsibility for their well being. That’s why we often give unsolicited advice (as we try to prove our worth) which we confuse with being nurturing.

Being nurturing is simply being yourself, without judgments or conditions, through which behavior you give permission to your partner or friend to do the same. They then feel nurtured in being who they are. In the mutual acceptance of each other, there is no monitoring for disappointments from expectations you have put on yourself or the other person, or from expectations they have put on you.

The truest form of nurturing is loving someone without expectation that they have something you need from them to complete you or that they need to act or be a certain way to align with your view of the world.

To be nurturing in relationships you have to understand that you give love because you have it to give, and without looking for confirmation that you are doing enough or if the other person is reciprocating in some way. In doing so, you will experience your own beingness of love.

That will give you the freedom to experience your relationship without the fear of losing or damaging it. What makes relationships safe and fun, is simply being yourself and seeing things from different perspectives while sharing the same core beliefs and values.

So, what does it mean to "be who you are" in all of your relationships? It means being "heart centered". It means following your heart in all interactions in each relationship. It means honoring your Self above all while honoring the other without judgment.

It does NOT mean toleration of being the target of anger or judgment or any other unwanted behavior, in order to keep the peace. Love is the center and the core of everything, and Self is the place where all love must begin.

  

Those who love others grandly are those who love themselves grandly. Those who have a high acceptance of others are those who have a high acceptance of themselves. Therefore, begin where all growth, where all evolution, where all love and nurturing must begin: with the person in the mirror.

Until next time.

Blessings,

Sharon.

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The Heart Is Where It’s At

In order to navigate the complexities of this world as it has become, there is one thing we need to do that is more important than anything else. We need to stop thinking so much and start feeling our way through our environment and our experiences. We need to move from our heads to our hearts.

We have been taught and programmed to live through our mind. How many times have you heard “use your head", "figure it out", "they have a good head on their shoulders”? Yet the mind can only respond with what has already been programmed (largely by other peoples beliefs which we adopted mainly in childhood), or by what has been experienced.

Having been taught that there is information and knowledge that we need to obtain before we can live a happy, fulfilled life, has left us feeling that there is something lacking in us. We've been told that "Knowledge is Power". That launched us on a quest for more education and has caused us to believe that others know more than we do, or that they somehow hold the "key" that we seem to be missing.

With that, the age of the guru was born and we began to read every new book we could find, listened to endless tapes, and attended seminar after seminar looking for that magic key. The key has been elusive, however, and there comes a time when you have to ask "What if we've been looking in all the wrong places"?

There has been a shift of consciousness on the planet and even if people don’t understand what that is, they know something has changed. More of us are no longer satisfied with the status quo. We're looking for our purpose and wondering why we are even here.

Science now supports what the mystics have been telling us for eons. The heart is where it’s at.

We can now measure human emotions and scientists can now document the effect of emotions on the heart field. The human heart is now documented as the strongest generator of both the electrical and magnetic fields in the body.

This is important because we have been taught that the brain is where the action is. But the brain’s electrical and magnetic fields are relatively weak compared to the heart. The heart is about 100 times stronger, electrically, and 5000 times stronger, magnetically, than the brain.

We have also been led to believe that the first place we process information from our environment is through the brain, but we now know that this is not true. Science has proven that our environment is perceived first through the heart center and that data is then transmitted to the brain. The brain simply processes the data it receives from the heart.

This is revolutionary information. But what does it mean to me? How has living from my mind impacted my experience here? What does living from my heart really mean and how will it change my experience? How do I make that transition? And how do my brain, mind, heart and heart center relate to each other?

Sit with these questions this week. Be more acutely aware as you go about your life. Look at each decision you make and determine if it was a mind decision (figured it out) or a heart decision (went with how I felt). These simple things can have profound, life changing implications.

Until next time, please join in the discussion by adding a comment below to express your views, pose a question, or share an experience. Use your first name, a made up "forum name", or remain Anonymous. Let's get a conversation going!

Blessings,

Sharon.